Boys And Girls Can't Be Best Friends?
Okay, this is a subject that really irks me. I've never been the type of girl who actually has a lot of female friends and I'm sure many of my past friends can attest that. When I tell people this they assume that I mean I'm a loner, which I sort of am, what they usually don't consider is that I most of my friends are male. Why do they not consider this? Probably because I don't have a boyfriend and everyone knows that boys and girls can't be friends without it leading to something more, duh. Common knowledge, right? Wrong. I have like seven male best friends and one female best friend. I don't desire to be in a relationship with any of those guys and I'm 99% sure they don't want to be in a relationship with me. They know me too well to desire such a thing.
I decided to Google this topic to see what came up and frankly everything I saw was complete and utter bullshit. Having male best friends is the same as having female best friends. I mean Leprechauns even let me paint his finger nails in the past and Cookie and I never bother to use code about our periods around him. We're all open books. Granted with the other six male best friends I have I'm not as comfortable to discuss that sort of thing but my point is that if you and the person are close it is basically the same. Best friends are gender neutral and it shouldn't matter if you best friend is a female, male or transgender. It's not like you even get to choose who your best friends are. It's just sort of something that happens. So when I hear people say this it really irks me, and to be honest I think I hear it at least five times a week, which is just ridiculous.
On one site -http://cohengoinggone.wordpress.com- I read this.
"Boys and girls cannot be best friends, unless one or both of them are gay. Two girls going out for drinks and going back home together is a girly day out. A girl and a guy doing the same thing, is well, essentially a date."
"I'm not saying that girls and boys can't have friends of the opposite sex, but by laws of being human the relationship is entirely different. I call my male friends my "mates" and I tend to only seem them in group situations;"
I understand that as it is a blog, the writer is just writing her own opinion and I respect that. I'm just using this as an example of the belief in this idea. She also mentions how many shows and movies have this idea as a running theme, the most iconic being Friends.
Now the basis of this theory is that a male and female can't be best friends because they will eventually develop feelings for one another. Now I ask you, what if a gay male and a straight male are best friends? What about a lesbian and a straight woman? Can they still be best friends even if the lesbian might develop feelings for her friend? But more to the point, does it really matter if one of them develops feelings for the other? It's it's unrequited then, yes that's a shame, but at least they're still going to be best friends because something as trivial as that shouldn't be a cause to discontinue the friendship. What if they both have feelings for one another? Well then they can sail off into the sunset, prance around in the daisies, kiss on sailing boat and have a white picket fence with two point five kids, or whatever.
My point is that just because a male and female are best friends doesn't mean they are destined to fall for one another. People ask Leprechaun and I all the time if we're going out and his reply is always "Been through Hell once, not going there again." and I agree with him. Granted we dated before we were best friends but we didn't really know each other then, now it's platonic. I guess that's why this topic bugs me. I get that when people we don't know ask. I mean they don't know who we are or what the situation is. But when people close to you ask constantly it makes it awkward and can sometimes create phantom feelings. Feelings for another person that aren't real but are there because of the thoughts and ideas of others. So when people say this or bring this 'idea' up it has a similar effect and makes everyone in the situation feel awkward.
-I have no idea what I just said, the thoughts and views shown above are mine alone and I mean no offence to anyone-
Anyway, onto what I've done so far today... I woke up and you know.. Woke up and all.. Mother and I went out to get some gardening stuff and on our drive she began telling me some of the things I 'saw' as a child and about the bible and prophesies and the Nephilium and even though I am Jewish -I'm actually technically a Messianic Jew which is what Jesus was I do believe- I don't know much about the bible because I've never been interested in facts and I do believe in God, Jesus and His word. But when she began talking about a preacher/scientist/philosopher who has made connections between the bible and other dimensions, and the Nephilium or The Fallen Ones (not to be confused with Fallen Angels) it really caught my attention and so I asked if she could do a bible study with me so I could not only grasp a basic understanding of the bible but also so I could learn about the things I perceived to be works of fictions -multiple dimensions etc.
I looked at a few YouTube videos of his sermons this afternoon and it was really interesting, I mentioned it to Leprechaun and he want's to be involved with the bible study to learn more about it too so that's happening and I'll keep you all up to date with what we learn and so on. Might even get Mother to write up her 'lessons' and I'll post them here. I know that a majority of you probably aren't Christian, Jewish or whatever other religions believe in the bible, but this stuff is interesting and if you don't care about it for facts it's still interesting and could be used as an aid for works of fiction, whether you're the one writing it or you're reading it. (Hush Hush by Becca Fitzpatrick and other novels with Nephilium, Fallen Angels, Angels, Demons, or even fans of Supernatural.) I'm also going to ask Cookie if she's interested and my 'brother' Christopher Robin if he wants to be included because well Christopher Robin is a Christian and he might be interested and Cookie might find it interesting. Anyway, after Mother and I had that little discussion we bought lunch from Macca's. Unfortunately they put mayo on my McChicken burger and I couldn't eat any of the lettuce because it was covered in the gross stuff. That's a good thing to point out.. I don't like mayonnaise. It's so disgusting, last time I actually had some willingly I felt ill for three days afterward. Not sure if it was psychological or what.. Anyway then we came home and I watched those videos. A little while later I was talking to My Nerds (my male friends) about us all meeting up for a fancy dress dinner on the twenty third and Facebook has this feature on mobiles that allows you to record voice messages and send them and they started singing Bohemian Rhapsody and my gosh, that was possibly one of the funniest things I'v ever heard. Sometimes when we're at school they all start singing it and making the noises from the instruments of air strumming/drumming and they are just so amazingly embarrassing I would have them any other way. I'll give you their nicknames -for the ones that have a nickname.. I'm still working on some of them-, First there's Camroon. He play's almost every instrument except violin and we remind him all the time, he doesn't take lessons he just picks them up naturally and he's pretty amazing. Then there's Hopey. He's the smart quite one. In high school he was always being called up on stage at assemblies to receive awards but I still don't know why because every-time I saw him in class he was watching anime? Then there's G-String. He's the flirt. The there's Christopher Robin who I've mentioned before, my Mother basically raised him and I've known him most of my life. He's a pretty good bloke but is a bit of an idoit (Yes I meant to spell it that way. In 2012 for my art project I needed people to paint on a piece of paper a cruel name they've been called and his was that he had been called an idiot but he spelled it wrong and I vowed to never let him live it down like the good sister I am.). Squibby, he's the rich one who has been working at Macca's since grade eight and is the only one of us with his P plates. And lastly for My Nerds you have Midget. He's the tall one who loves cars. There are 'The Others' in our friendship group but I'm not as close to them.. There is The Boys, they're Leprechauns 'other' friends. There is only two of them. Now that introductions are out of the way I'm thinking I should probably wrap this post up.. It's kind of long..
After so much reading you all deserve a cute gif. He he, Puss In Boots is so adorable!
Live long and prosper, godspeed.
Becca
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